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Sunday, April 17, 2011

What Is Quality?

2:00 PM |

Is good really good?

The question of the day on formspring was "What qualities do you look for when you're dating someone?" While I have yet to answer that question it did start to make me think. As I was in the process of rattling off my mental list like Fräulein Maria in the Sound of Music, the word 'qualities' kept ringing in my head.

The word 'qualities' sounds heavy. Much more than characteristics; far above attributes. Perhaps qualities are those (as E-Harmony puts it) core values. So often when envisioning the perfect mate we are stuck on the personality traits, the looks, the actions, the career, the status, and forget to think about what values and qualities a person possesses. We focus so much on what they can do for us and who they are that we forget to really look at who..they..are. Ultimately a person can have every character trait and attribute you are looking for but if your core values don't match up, there could be trouble in paradise.

Now I'm not going to sit here and tell you these are qualities and these are not. That's up to you to decide. But before you get back out there looking for your potential match, take a moment to really reflect on that word 'qualities' and what it is you really should be looking for.

I know I'm re-evaluating my list....