An honest dialogue about love, life, and everything in-between...

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Random Thought

12:00 PM |

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Too Much To Ask

12:00 PM |

Women and their requirements....

Why is it that when women list the traits they want in a man the first thing people say is "oh you're asking for too much"? Turn on any talk show, any radio show, open any dating/relationship book and one of the main things you'll see them recommend to women is to 'adjust' their requirements. I will admit that many women have a laundry list of things they want in a man (many of them they do not even possess themselves). It would be different if those were the only expectations we were talking about. But they are not, and I don't understand why everyone feels the need to tell women what they are asking for is unreasonable.

As a woman, I am expected to be a wife, a mother, a god-fearing woman, a freak, strong yet compassionate, a good cook, a good maid, often a doctor, a caretaker, physically fit but curvy, intelligent but not a know-it-all, a tailor, a butcher, a baker, a candlestick maker..... BUT! If I have a series of requirements for my mate, I'm asking too much?

The minute one of us begins to put requirements on what we want in a man we are just being unreasonable, unrealistic, and irrational. Why? Are you as a man not as diverse in your talent as us women are? Are you not able to live up to higher expectations? Why must I lower my standards to prevent a lifetime of loneliness?

From the beginning women are brought up knowing they will have a lot of responsibilities. We know we have many roles we need to fill, and many tasks we need to master in order to be that 'perfect' wife and mother. We know that in order to compete in this male driven world, we have to be 10 times better than our counterparts in order to be successful. We are brought up knowing that we have to 'bring it' in order to make it.

The same goes for you guys. Especially if you are a minority male. You know all the things you've had to make yourself become in order to be successful. Sadly, many of you were not fortunate enough to be groomed by a man on what it takes to be a wonderful husband or father. But honestly, many of us ladies don't hold that against you. Many of you have grown to become wonderful and successful men and fathers without that.

Instead of attacking the requirements, why not just step up to the plate. Be the best you, you can be. Man up! Cause all the whining and complaining you do about my requirements only lets me know that you are so not on my level.

Friday, June 24, 2011

Love Is Not Blind

12:00 PM |

It's just ignorant....

Love is not blind. You saw that person when you first met them. You saw something to make you go over and start up a conversation. You see that person almost every day. You see what they do almost every day. You see how they act towards you and other people. You see everything everyone else sees and more. So love is not BLIND!

Love is ignorant. Love makes you ignore your partners faults. It makes you dismiss inappropriate behavior. It makes you accept things you would normally not let anyone else get away with. It mutes the little voice of reason inside. And while sometimes, the ability to ignore the little things is what makes love great, it's also what allows 'love' to go so bad.

Now there's no need to discuss how good love is here, because most people who use the phrase 'love is blind' are not doing so in a positive situation. It's only applied when things are bad. Just another way of passing the responsibility. It's what people use to dismiss inadequacies, flaws, and overall incompatibilities in their mates. It's what people use to explain how people could be married to serial killers and not be aware. It's what people use to justify staying in an abusive relationship. It is probably one of the biggest cop-outs of personal responsibility EVER!

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Let Me Clear My Throat

1:12 PM |

Stupid, mother-f^#&ing, b!%ch-a$$...

You know....I don't understand how shitty people think they're going to end up with Mr./Mrs. Wonderful. Here you are, a horrible human being. Self-centered, disrespectful, rude, common and ignorant and you think you deserve a man or woman that will worship the ground you walk on?

Bitch please.

That Golden Rule stuff they taught you in elementary school just went in one ear and out the other. You put in shit, you get out shit. But, because you're cute (or think you are) you feel like that makes it ok for you to be a complete fucker to everyone around you. Those rules don't apply to people like yourself. Your 'above' that cause you know, like, you're cute so......

You're looks. That's it. That's the only thing you feel you need to bring to the table. You can't read. You can't write. You talk like a deaf, LD, 3rd grader. And we are supposed to just deal with your fucked up ass attitude cause we should be so honored that someone that looks like you even bothers to 'grace' us with your presence. I mean it's not totally your fault. Hey, people have allowed you to get away with this behavior before, so why ruin a good thing by being...I don't know...a good person.

All you bobble-headed barbies and blow-pop minded pretty boys need to recognize that there's only so much surgery can fix. You're not going to be cute forever. Hell you may not even be cute to that man/woman tomorrow. There's always something flyer, hotter, younger around the corner that can turn your mate's head faster than you ever did. And because you have no viable life skills and no friends (cause're a dick), when they get tired of your ass, you'll be the hottest homeless bitch on the corner.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

If Hey Says It He Means It

12:00 PM |

No means no!

Ladies, we all know that at times we hear what we 'want' to hear. We see what we 'want' to see and that's that. We all know that many times when a guy says one thing he really means another.

He says: Yea I'm single.
Translates to: Yea I kick it with a couple of girls, but none of those chics are my girlfriend.

So to just blindly take him at his word would just be naive of you. However, if a man says he's not looking for a relationship right now, he's not feeling you in that way, he doesn't see this relationship going any further than it is, then please believe he's telling you the truth.

If you are truly dealing with a MAN, he was brought up to say what he means and mean what he says. This is the one time where 'I'm not looking for a serious relationship right now' really translates into I'M NOT LOOKING FOR A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW. But women don't want to hear that.

Women hear 'right now'. So to many women that means, there's a possibility in the future you will actually want to be in a serious relationship. That means she can wait you out, wear you down, 'convince' you that she are the one for you. This way when 'not right now' turns into 'right now', there she is. Arms wide open. *GOTCHA*

Ladies, you go out of your way and enter into a girlfriend/wife role prematurely. Trying to show him all of your good qualities. Simulating what a relationship between the two of you could be. This way he'll just have to change his mind and realize that you are who he wants to be with. You and only you.

Stop that. Ladies, I know it's hard. Especially if this man is showing you he possesses all of the qualities you are looking for in a man. You only end up hurting yourself in the end. While he may be Mr. Right to you, to him you just may be good enough for right now. Him kicking it with you now doesn't mean he'll want to be with you in the end. Truthfully, if he was really looking for a serious girl you've already knocked yourself out of the race. The simple fact that you're giving him the girlfriend goodies with out any of the boyfriend responsibilities doesn't really make you look good. It's just ups his player status. He's had to do no work and you give him everything.

So ladies, if you're going to date, date. If it evolves it evolves. But don't get your feelings caught up in a man who is not ready to get his feelings caught up in you.

Monday, June 20, 2011

Moment of Simple

8:18 PM |

How many of you remember this TV special?