An honest dialogue about love, life, and everything in-between...

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Random Thought

6:19 PM |

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

The Empress's New Clothes

12:07 AM |

Clothes not made of magic thread...

Tonight I stood in the doorway of my room and gazed upon the jackets, jeans, t-shirts, dress shirts, skirts, dress pants, socks, night gowns, etc, etc, etc strewn all about the place and I realized a very important thing. I HATE CLOTHES! They are everywhere. All over my room, hanging in my closet, in the trunk in the living room, in bags by the basement door, in the closet in the guest I said everywhere! And with the myriad of clothing I still wake up every day and think to myself.."What am I going to wear?!?" How utterly pointless is it for me to have all these clothes and yet nothing I feel is presentable enough to put on.

Don't get me wrong, fashion is great. I love the idea of clothes. The concept of the "Get It" outfit. Just to define, a Get It outfit is your "get your rent paid" jeans, your "fuck me" pumps and a "hurt 'em" shirt. Every girl should have a Get It outfit. I love the idea of going shopping, finding cute clothes and imagining where I can wear them and who would see me in them. But the reality is a whole different story.

The reality is that you have to purchase these clothes, may of them are woefully over priced and will barely last you a year these days. Some will fit only 3 weeks out of the month. Some will only fit for a few months then you'll either lose or gain weight and the clothes once again are no good. Or in a few months, the seasons will change, the style will change and your fly outfit becomes obsolete. To make matters worse, at some point you will have to launder these clothes. At which time you will either dry clean or sort and wash yourself. Then you have to either pay for someone to blow dry heat on your clothes and call it clean or you have to haul baskets of clothes in and out of the laundry room (wherever it may be). Then comes the folding, the ironing, and the hanging. Words cannot express how much I hate to do laundry. I promise if I ever found a man that would do my laundry for me you'd see one very happy man. But I digress.

I say all of that to say this......I love shoes!

Friday, January 23, 2009

Moment of Simple

8:08 PM |

Get On Board...

Thursday, January 8, 2009

What You Won't Do For Looks

11:50 PM |

Being blinded by fine...

Let's set the scene. You meet a man. He is a nice guy. This man gets along with everyone. He is sensitive and caring and treats you like a queen and loves you. So far so good right?

Now what if I told you that this very same man lives with his mom. He doesn't have a car, and couldn't even drive one if he had it because he's never had his license. He doesn't have a career and can't keep a steady job. He doesn't even have his GED and has made no apparent motions to at least get that. Now for arguments sake let's say that the reason he hasn't done those things is just because he hasn't done them. Not that he can't or that he needs help or he has some master plan to get him somewhere and this is just where he is right now, but that he truly has no desire to improve his circumstances. And while it would be nice to say that he's still young and can work on that as he matures, this man is also almost 40. Still good?

Well what if I said he is let's say a Morris Chestnut or Shemar Moore or my personal favorite Pharrell or whatever does it for you. Do you get with him or say no thank you?

Most women I have posed this question to have said "He's fine but he ain't that fine". These women aren't materialistic or shallow. I think what it boils down to is that there are certain things as women we expect from men. Most women need to know that they can be taken care of by their man and on paper this man doesn't look like he can do that. Fine or not. Do I think most men would take that stance if the girl was like an Alicia Keys, Lauren London, or whatever fly girl is in right now? Absolutely not. But I haven't surveyed the guys about this scenarios so that's for another conversation.

So the question really becomes, what would you put up with for hotness?

The Sad Truth About Relationships...

Quite depressing but from my observations, quite accurate.

Friday, January 2, 2009

The Definition of a Hypocrite

4:52 PM |

I try to pretend that I'm different but in the end we're all the same...

HYPOCRITE- (as defined by Webster)
Main Entry:
1 : a person who puts on a false appearance of virtue or religion
: a person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings
hypocrite adjective

By definition we are all hypocrites. I know it hurts, but it's true. At some point in our lives we have either done or said something that completely contradicts our beliefs or what we practice. At some point we have all given advice. We have told stories, given lessons to children about right and wrong, and given ourselves a set of guidelines of how we would want to live. We say what we would do if.. what we're going to do when... and the ever popular "I'd never do that". How many of us really do everything we say?

Truthfully, no one ever truly knows how they will react to a situation until they are in that situation. It's not to say the advice or suggestions we give to our friends or ourselves on a daily basis are unreliable. It's just a long way to say don't judge. Until you are in that same position you should never truly comment on anything others have done. And if you are giving advice and speaking based on your own experiences, be honest and not judgemental and understand everyone's situation is different.

In general people don't set out to be hypocrites. (Not all people anyway). Life takes you to places you never thought you'd be. And when you get there sometimes you do what you should do, other times you do what you did. Don't be so quick to judge. And make sure you any advice you are giving comes from a very honest place. Remember if you hold a mirror up to everyone else, be ready to face your own reflection when it's turned back at you.

Thursday, January 1, 2009

New Year's Resolutions

5:33 AM |

Should old acquaintance be forgot...

Every new year people start making massive lists about what they'll change. Be it behaviors, appearance, professional development, or personal development, the new year brings about a need to revise self. This new year I have decided not to make a massive list. This year my list will include 2 things.

1. Focus and Finish. Doesn't matter what it is as long as I finish what I started. Too often there are so many things I want to do. Places to go, ideas to develop, websites to complete, and the list goes on and on and on. Things will never happen for me if I don't finish. So that is my first resolve. Focus and Finish. Notice the new look? I've been trying to re-design this blog for a long time now. I have this template. I kinda like it. Being an artist I'll never fully be happy with it. It's got a few bugs but it's in there. So I'm starting off pretty good so far.

2. Take time for self. To be honest I'm tired. I put energy in to my work. I put energy into my students. I put energy into my friends. I put energy into my finances. However at times when I needed some of those same people, emotionally or otherwise I found myself standing alone. I learned a lot this year and I surely won't be putting the energy into people who don't return the favor. Don't get me wrong, a lot of what brings me joy is being able to help other people and I will always be a shoulder to lean on for all my friends. But your comfort and happiness won't keep me warm at night.

So when you make your resolutions make them attainable and realistic. You'll get to the end of the year and look back and be able to see what you've managed to accomplish. So whatever you resolve to do this year I wish you much success. To health, prosperity and happiness. *Cheers*