An honest dialogue about love, life, and everything in-between...

Saturday, July 30, 2011

You Smelt It, You Dealt It

7:11 PM |

Point one at me, you have 3 pointing at you...

So here you are in your relationship...chugging along...everything is all gravy. You're vibing with them, they're apparently vibing with you then all of a sudden...they start trippin. They're looking through your phone, checking up on where you're going, claiming you're checking out the next man in line at the grocery store, accusing you of cheating. And you're left standing there, shields out wondering where in the world all of this came from.

Usually most of that noise is comes from a guilty conscious. They know what they've managed to have time and desire to get into, so they think you could very well be doing the same thing. Why wouldn't you be doing the same thing? How could you not be doing the same thing? And they're going to start flapping around and clucking to distract you from focusing on them.

Before you go above and beyond trying to prove to your significant other that you're not out there doing them wrong, you may want to stop and watch them for a second. You may find out that, in the midst of this slanderous hurricane, they're the one who's been out there double dipping their fun stick.

Thursday, July 28, 2011

Good Look

11:40 AM |

Respect the personal space...

I often spend so much time on here talking about the grimier side of people, I think it's time to recognize some of the good things people do. Today I have to say thank you to all of those who are respectful of someone else's personal space.

People often forget how important that personal space is. Think about how the perceptions about the dynamics of a conversation can change just based on the proximity of the people involved. People standing farther apart tell a different story than two standing face to face. Fight vs respectable disagreement. Casual conversation vs intimate discussion.

Sometimes the respect of that personal space is just polite. For example, today at the drug store the person behind me actually waited in line at a nice distance. Giving me the privacy to check out the items I needed and complete my transaction without having to hide the credit card screen under my hand for fear of prying eyes. Too often I find the back of my neck warm from the nostril air because the person behind me is right up on me. So thank you respectful stranger. And thank you to all those who respect the bubble.

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Random Thought

3:21 PM |

I watched this today, and I just had to post it.

Monday, July 25, 2011

Not A Good Look

8:19 PM |

They're called an undershirts for a reason...

I really do hate to make my 'Not A Good Look' posts about actual looks, but with it being as hot as it is I really must say external 'wife beaters' and white t's are not the business. Now I can sort of give you a pass if the t's are fresh out of the box, and excellent quality. But let's just be honest here...those are not the one's you fellas are wearing.

If you're T is so thin I could watch TV through it and all of your unruly, taco meat is visible through the shirt, you should not be wearing that alone. If you're shirts are so stretched out you could take it off by sliding it down around your hips, that is not grocery store appropriate apparel. If your shirts are so stained it looks more like a denver nuggets jersey, you don't need to wear that out in public.

If you really just need a white T, there are plenty of places you can get an appropriate one from for a good price. Cause, boo, beat down beaters and raggedy white T's are just not a good look.

Saturday, July 23, 2011

R.I.P Amy Winehouse

3:36 PM |

I've seen some comments and some overall cavalier attitudes towards this news. But wether it is expected, unexpected or deserved, notification of someone's death is nothing to be callous about. Wether we know that person, think we know that person or hate that person, each and every one of us mean something to someone. Respect that.

R.I.P to a very young woman with a beautiful voice whose 'love' ultimately cost her her life.

Monday, July 18, 2011

Be Easy on the Best Friend

10:40 PM |

They are not your 'yes' man...

So I'll be honest, the inspiration for this post came from after watching an episode of Basketball Wives. (Don't judge me - hear me out). Back story: In the episode one of the ladies made remarks against her 'best friend's' man. She apparently has not celebrated in the engagement or be the most excited about the relationship. The remarks she made about the relationship were on a radio show and ultimately brought these issues to the surface. The hurt woman is upset that her best friend isn't happy for her or apparently supportive.

I understand that it hurst to have your friend not be happy for you when you are so happy or excited about your situation. And, while I do believe that it was wrong for the girl to say those negative comments about her girl's man on the air, I think people need to stop expecting for their friends to co-sign every decision they make. It is not the responsibility of the best friend to be your yes man. And them not supporting every decision you make does not make them haters either.

They are your friend. They are the ones that are often left carrying you when you've fallen down broken. They're the one's who's shoulders are soaking wet from letting you cry on them. They're supposed to be there not only to support you but to also help you keep from making poor decisions, because they truly care about you. It would be wrong of them not to call you on your shit from time to time.

And let's be honest. How many times do you expect for your friend to sit quietly while they watch you continuously make the same mistakes over and over and over again. Eventually those constant conscious mistakes and those poor decision making skills start to make a person question wether you are the type of person they need to be associating with. And sadly the relationship starts to erode.

I can honestly say that I've watched several of many of the people in my life make decisions I have not agreed with several times. All you can do is speak your piece in the most respectful way possible (sometimes) and hope that your friend, being your friend, hears it in the way it was intended.

Monday, July 11, 2011

Moment of Simple

12:00 PM |

1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6.....

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Acting Right

9:37 PM |

Ok. Let me just say this. LADIES! There is absolutely no reason for you to be going through your man's phone, texting random girls in his phone book, or calling and playing around. NO. FUCKING. REASON. AT. ALL.

And fella's if you're doing this...really.......I-I-I-can't even. Just grow some balls.

I feel like I shouldn't have to say anymore but I know I do, it's such a rampant problem.

Apparently you have some trust issues. And those issues have nothing at all to do with that chic you're calling. What needs to happen is you need to figure out why you can't trust your man. If he's cheating then deal with HIM. Decide if you want to even put up with this. I mean do you really want to be like that dog in the yard barking at everyone that comes by? Eventually the kids in the neighborhood are going to start throwing rocks at your ass.

If he's not cheating then, honey, get some help!

So it's not trust issues you say? Then what is the problem? Are you 12? How the hell can you claim to be a grown ass woman and still find it funny to prank call women in your man's phone? What if the number is a client? His boss? A co-worker? Here you are making your man look terribly unprofessional, irresponsible, and childish. Jeopardizing his potential to make money.