An honest dialogue about love, life, and everything in-between...

Friday, February 20, 2009

Random Thought

9:32 PM |

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Inside The Mind

1:10 AM |

wants, needs, and everything inbetween...

At night I often have a lot of thoughts that normally don't present themselves in the light. Tonight the thought is of wants vs needs. We all have things in life we want. But who is to say that what we want is what we need? Who is to say that what we want is best for us? I guess with my ever growing quest to improve myself, life, overall situation I have managed to establish what are not goals but this ideal state. This state where if I got x,y,z I'd be happy. How am I to know if this ideal state is really the best for me? And if it is not the why am I working so hard to get it. I mean, what if I do reach this ideal state and it turns out not to be the life I wanted afterall? Or even more, what if I reach this ideal state and that's it. My purpose is done. I've achieved all I'm ment to achieve and the big plug gets pulled on me?

How do you balance reaching for your goals and being all that you can be without seting unrealiztic expectations on your life? Isn't the whole point to challenge to yourself? Aren't we supposed to reach for the impossible? Where to you balance the absurd with the reality? And if you try and find that balance are you limiting yourself and minimizing your potential? I mean think of all the poineers out there who did the unthinkable. Think of all those who live these amazing adventerous and extravagent lifestyles. None of those people got to where they are by limiting themselves. But is being realistic truly limiting yourself? I mean most people who have these grand lifestyles are the exception to the rule and by default we have to think that we just my be the rule. (thanks to he's just not into you for that rule thought).

When do you say when? When do you decide to hang back and enjoy the fruits of your labor? We always talk of how bad complacency is but when are you supposed to take the time to enjoy all the rewards your hard work has to offer? At the rate most people work they won't truly be able to bask in the glory and perks of their accomplishments until they retire and then you just may be too old. So what you leave this life your worked all your life to get to dollar inheritences to your heirs? Damn that. I mean there's nothing wrong with helping your family be better off but when am I supposed to have my fun?

I know that regardless of what happens in life you should be happy with what you have managed to achieve thus far. And remember that being happy with what you have and have done doesn't mean that you aren't going to reach higher. I guess all in all there is nothing wrong with having outlandish expectations for your life. Because if you don't the who will.

Monday, February 16, 2009

Moment of Simple

10:24 PM |

So a while back, I had a dream where She-Ra gave me her sword so I could slice up New York from I Love New York. There was a whole lot more randomness in that dream so I'll leave it there. As a tribute, I give you the open. Reminisce with me.

Friday, February 13, 2009

He's Just Not That Into You

10:37 AM |

A review...

In it's opening weekend, my girl friends and I got together and went to see the movie "He's Just Not That Into You." The theater was packed with women who had either read the book, heard good things about the book or just really were looking to see what insight was going to come through. I just went to see what it was all about. It the beginning it started out promising. Showing how from young children women are taught that if a boy is mean to you on the playground he likes you. Which then leads to us chasing them onto adult-hood. For me that's where the "I hadn't thought of that" ended.

Overall the movie wasn't bad. I think it said some very obvious things. However it really made girls look absolutely crazy! I mean that movie made women look like needy, marriage pushing, stalkers, so desperate for attention and that all mighty ring. In a whole it shone more of a light onto women's crazies than on what to look for to tell if a guy is into you or not.

Their one downfall was the fact that they had to wrap everything up in a nice and tidy bow. I guess the exec's heard that the audience would be women and tried to give it all a happy ending. Probably some focus group told them that's what women liked so that's what they gave us: An unrealistic happy ending for damn near everyone in a move that's supposed to be about how to tell when men aren't into you. I have never heard more white girls shout at the screen before in a movie. Not "aww" or "whoo" but "This Is BULLSHIT!"

After the movie I read the book and it was a good. The one I read was for daily use so it was more of a bullet point of the lessons, which I like. It also was good at uplifting a woman's self-esteem. Letting them know that they are worthy of attention and love and if the one you're with isn't giving that to you move on. My favorite line "Don't waste the pretty". Overall the book had little use for me cause hell, I am not dillusional about wether or not a guy likes me. But I do think if you are ever in that limbo stage, this book and this movie does a really good job of helping you understand if "He's Just Not That Into You".

Thursday, February 5, 2009

Too Good

9:36 PM |

Good girl
Good job
Good car
Good house
Good upbringing
Good money
Good clothes
Good shoes
Good style
Good attitude
Good face
Good hair
Good smile
Good shape
Good personality
Good kiss
Good sex
Good brain
Good moves
Good at those quiet things
Good mind
Good heart
Good soul
Good love
Good natured
Good enough
To be the one you trust
But too good to be your girl?