An honest dialogue about love, life, and everything in-between...

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

What's a Shy Girl To Do?

2:10 PM |

Would a guy approach a shy girl?

A while back, a friend and I were having a discussion about shyness and the question came up: Would a guy approach a shy girl? Not being a guy, I can't truly answer this question. But it did make me think a bit.

What is being shy? What does that really mean. I think when many people think of a shy person, somewhere in the conversation comes along the idea of a lack of confidence. That person is insecure about something that causes them to be a bit more reserved and with-holding.

However, I think it would be wrong to assume that every shy woman is suffering from some insecurity. Many times, people (not just women) can be reserved just because they are a bit wary of strange environments and unknown people. Does not mean they are not confident or secure. In order to open that person up, you would have to make the environment more welcoming and safe. And who knows what would happen then.

In general, approaching a shy girl is work. Whether or not a man is willing to put in that effort is unknown. I think it depends on the guy. But don't write off the shy girl in the corner.

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Random Thought

11:01 AM |

Monday, June 28, 2010

Fade Into The Background

Let a woman be a woman and a man be a man...

The other day I was watching one of the last Chris Rock stand-up specials, Kill The Messenger and he made a joke about the possibility of having a black first lady during the election season. Wanna hear it?

So, let me first say I thought the joke was quite funny. Laughed all the way through his special like I always do. But it got me black women know how to "play their position"?

Are black women strong? Yes. Can black women be a dominating presence? Absolutely. It's a role that we've been in for centuries. We can't ignore the historical context of how the slavery affected the roles of black men and women. Overtime, our "strength" evolved due to the single parent households, the alarming disproportionate number of black men being incarcerated, and violence in our communities. So we had no choice but to learn to not only "play" our position but the man's position as well.

However, black women can grow, adapt, and play any role assigned to them. We can be the home makers, we can raise and take care of children, we can do all those things we are "supposed" to do and then some. I know of not one black woman that would have a problem "playing her position". Can we follow? Of course we can. But the one we follow has to be able to lead. We're not going to be dragged down into the muck of foolishness following behind someone with no sense. It's unfortunate, but as a man, you have to show and prove you are worthy to be followed. It is only once you have proven yourself worthy, that a woman, especially a black woman, will relinquish some of the control.

AND, if we are going to be truly honest, think about all those dumb chics that follow behind a man..any man..and do whatever he says. No matter how stupid it is. So to say that a black woman can't or won't play her position, whatever that's supposed to be is just wrong.

So do black women know how to play their position? My answer? Yes. But you have to ask yourself men, do you know how to play yours?

Saturday, June 26, 2010

Where In The World Is GGirl?

9:10 AM |

I'm In New Yorkkkkkk....

Hello good people. I kinda went underground for a good little minute. Trying to work my way back up from the muck of every day life and I have resurfaced in Brooklyn for vacation. I must say. I'm digging it.

While I was making my way up here, I noticed a few things that I will never understand about flying...

1. No matter who I fly with, or where I'm going, my departing gate is never EVER one of the first 5 gates closest to the entrance. I am always walking to the last gates. And it's never one of the NEXT to last gate or a gate in the middle, it's always the very last gate.

2. Why do people corral around the gate like cows ready to make a run for it? Unless you are flying Southwest where it's first come first served, what is the point of crowding the gate? Your ticket has a number and a zone or whatever just like mine. All you're doing is rushing to have someones gut/balls/cooch in your face as people attempt to stuff a bag too large in the remaining overhead bins, or you are rushing to wait to knock people in the head with your carry on bags.

3. Why do airlines oversell a flight? They can count can't they? And why do they expect for someone, who has planed and paid for this flight, give up their seat for a later flight? While I may have flexible travel plans, why would I want to wait another hour or so in the airport? The airport sucks!

4. Don't be snippy with the flight attendants. That's just rude. But I don't really understand why you would do snack/drink service about 10 minutes before we start our decent. If we get a snack or drink we have to put the trays right back up, suck down our drinks really quickly or we'll miss the trash collection. If it's a short flight I'm sure we'd notice if we didn't get our soda or pretzels, but I doubt we'd really care.

5. PERSONAL SPACE! There are like 5 other empty seats in this waiting area. Go over there. And if you have to sit right beside me, pretend that there is a wall attached to the arm rests defining your space. Stay in your space. If you don't want your bag, cup, stuff in front of your feet what makes you think I want your stuff in front of my feet?

So what's on the agenda while I'm here? A lot and a little, either way I'm just happy to be out of North Carolina and ready to see what's going on in NY. Don't worry. I'll be sure to tell you guys all about it.

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Moment of Simple

1:14 PM |

"I am standing up"...