An honest dialogue about love, life, and everything in-between...

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

All or Nothing

7:15 AM |

Do you really want to be someone's 'everything'...

This past holiday I had the pleasure of returning home. And while driving about the town, the local radio station decided to play every Beyoncé song in existence. That lead me to ponder this one line she has in the song 'Irreplaceable'.

"Since I'm not your everything, how about I'll be nothing..."

How many of you ladies out there want to be everything to your man? Show of hands? Really? That many? My question to you is....WHY? That's a lot of pressure and let's be honest, none of us are that fly to be everything to someone.

You've heard those out there saying they want to be the mamma, daddy, sister, brother, the sun, the moon, the wind, the stars, the mountains, everything to their partner. What for? Don't they have those already? If not, then fine....go be that. But for me, I don't care to be all these other people, these other things for you....I want to be your woman.

I want you to be able to bring your interests, your friends, your family, your life together with mine and make a beautiful union together. Share and learn from each other. Not lose ourselves in our relationship but be there as a support as we grow and accomplish our dreams together. In order for that to happen, I can't be your 'everything'.

Don't get me wrong. At some point, I'd want to be someone's priority, and maybe even muse. But I don't think I'd ever want to be someone's everything. Nor would I want someone to be that for me. I'll reserve that 'everything' position for my (future) child.

Bottom line, we're all fallible. If you let someone put you that high on a pedestal, you'll break your neck when you fall. And trust me, we all fall at some point.

Monday, November 28, 2011

Moment of Simple

12:00 PM |

"...And I'm gonna always love you...."

Thanks to Lawrenorder for sharing this one with me. I had almost completely forgotten about it.

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Happy Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving good blog reading people! I hope you all had a wonderful weekend of holiday meals, shopping and family time. And maybe...just've reflected on all the good things in your life and your at least grateful that you have a weekly grind to get back to on Monday. Might not be the grind you want but at least it's something.

I think it's important to take some time out of your days to reflect on your life and where you are at this very moment. Compare it to where you were a year ago, 6 months ago, a week ago. And have an honest discussion about what is actually really good in your life. Sometimes we get so bogged down with the daily stress of living that we forget to do just

We have to remember that no one really has the perfect life. Even when we get everything we want, that level of living comes with its own requirements, responsibilities, highs and lows. (Notice I said when, not if). It's all about how you handle it. Truthfully, if you can't be happy with what you have right now, living where you are today, doing what you do today, how will you know how to be happy when you 'make it'.

Like I always say, happy is not complacent. You don't have to live a miserable existence to motivate you to want more. You just have to want more.

Gobble, gobble, y'all!

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

R.I.P. Heavy D

8:36 PM |

What I say. I really and truly adored his music. And I have never seen a man like him, move like he did. The energy he brought to his live performances was electrifying. I enjoyed him as the counselor on Boston Public. I loved him as Regine's mis-matched boyfriend on Living Single. I was so happy to see him close out the Hip-Hop Awards this year. Didn't think that would be the last time I got to see him perform. These things always make you think..... R.I.P. Heav.