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Tuesday, January 18, 2011


11:30 AM |

Don't forget about the good...

I had a conversation with a friend a while back about having an honest self-critique. I find myself thinking today about how easy it is to be a cheerleader for other people in my life and how hard it is for me to be a cheerleader for myself. Quite often we can get in the habit of looking at our lives through a jaded lens. We compare what we thought we would be doing with what we should be doing. We look at what we have with what we're trying to attain. We're good at finding our own shortcomings and forget to acknowledge what we already have accomplished.

But if you are doing a real critique, you have to look at the good with the bad. Think back to critiques in school. While there could be quite a bit of time spent on what you didn't do or what sucks about what you did, there were points where someone (should have) recognized what you did do well. Take a look and what you were trying to do and give you some tips and advice on how to do it better. Build on your current skills so you can grow.

When we critique ourselves we have to remember to look at what we've done well. Acknowledge the good with the bad. Because recognizing one without the other is not giving ourselves a true view of where we are with respects to what we want. Every start point generates a different path to get to the end point. And you can't get to where you're trying to go if you don't know where you're starting from.