True or False: Women are better communicators than men. Many would say true. Well, forever being the antagonist, I have to disagree. Just because women are more open to talk and more open to share doesn't necessarily make them better communicators.

Men will often tell you exactly what they are thinking. If they say they're thinking about nothing, they 95% of the time really and truly mean nothing. If they say they like it, they do (or at least do enough not to get themselves in trouble by saying otherwise). The only time they don't really say what they mean is when they are really uncomfortable talking about whatever the subject may be. For whatever reason. Remember part of a measure of a man is being true to his word and standing by what he says. So for the most part, if he says it (and he's a man and not a punk liar) you can believe he is communicating exactly what is on his mind. If he tells you nothing, and I mean nothing. You can't get him to speak up or out about anything...then there's a problem. And not with communication.

Women on the other hand may speak more, but I feel they often fail at communication efforts. For example, some will say we want a man to be the head of the household yet undermind his every efforts to do so. Some will say we want a man to be adventurous in the bedroom then freak out if he tries something different. I think, in general, many women don't know what we really want. We can be quick to see what we don't want, but explaining what we do want can be a struggle. We often have a tendency to send mix messages. Yet get mad when the man doesn't understand. Fall back on the whole, 'you know what I meant' idea. When really we don't even know what we mean.

Women, because biologically we are more emotionally charged beings, do have a tendency to fly off the handle. When we get mad we can shut down when things don't turn out the way we want. Ignore things we don't want to hear. Close ourselves off to other opinions. Yell, scream, throw stuff. How is that communicating?

Please believe this is not meant to apply to all men or all women because we know statistically there are variants in every population. However, if I am looking at the blanket statement 'Women are better communicators than men', I just honestly have to disagree.

Getting sloppy-slurry-fall down drunk is never a good look. But when you're about 21-24ish it tends to be a bit more understandable. Most are still new to drinking. You're in college (or at a college party or the like) getting it in. You tend to expect it a bit more. However, when you past the age of 25, there is absolutely no excuse for not knowing and respecting your limit.

Let me just say for ladies, this is really not a good look. It doesn't matter how cute you are, how smart you are, how much of the perfect girl you are the minute you drop your drink on his lap or you have to lean on this strange guy (who through your bottle goggles you think is cute), you are now 'that' girl. And trust, you don't want to be 'that' girl.

Fellas....I can't really say I have any expectations for you guys on a night out...cause...well..... Just don't get out there thinking you're Kimbo Slice. Don't turn into the creepy stalker in the corner. Don't turn into Mr. Touchy-feely. Just.....eh.....

I'm not saying don't get out and have fun. You can get drunk if you want to. Have at it. But I don't care how cute you are, taking a stumble in your stilettos, getting bounced out of the club for brawling, getting completely sloppy every weekend is just not a good look.

If you're familiar with the Millionaire Match Maker, Patty always asks her millionaires 'why love now?' That is such a great question that so many people aren't asking. It really makes you think about if you are ready for love and the reasons why. I think it helps to really push some reason and logic into a very emotional process.

That is a question anyone out there looking for love or about to get serious with someone should ask themselves. Why, after either such a short time or a long time, love now? What makes you think that you are ready to make a commitment? What makes you think you are ready to be with just that one person? What, after all of the previous relationships you've had, makes you prepared to enter into a new, long-term relationship? What is it about you and your lifestyle that makes you prepared or ready for love?

Focusing in on yourself and your current position in life will help you focus in on your wants and needs in a mate. You'll be able to eliminate those suitors who are really not good for you, and you'll be able to realize when you have exactly what you wanted. So maybe before we enter into our next relationship we should be asking 'why love now'?

It's that time of year again. Time when all common sense, compassion and chivalry go out the window and pure, unadulterated animalism takes over. That's right. Christmas sale shopping is upon us. If you're reading this, you've managed to survive the running of the bulls (also known as Black Friday). Congratulations. I hope you made it out with great deals and all of your teeth. With only 21 more shopping days left until christmas, I thought I should go over a few things before you go out and hit the malls to finish up your gift gathering.

1. Just park already. It makes no sense to circle and circle and circle. Do you know how expensive gas is? You've already spent more time circling the lot for a good parking space than you would have spend in the mall. Accept it. You'll have to park in the back. Just log it as exercise in your work out journal. It'll help burn off all those Christmas goodies you'll be eating up anyway.

2. The 30 second rule. This is what I feel is an appropriate wait time when you want to look at something someone is already looking at. You've been in the store for the last hour and now all of a sudden you need the 1 thing I'm looking at right at this very minute. WAIT! There is no need for you to reach in front of me to get something when I'm about to move in like 2 seconds.

3. Don't block the isle. Stores are crammed to the brim with stuff to buy so the isle size has gotten substantially smaller. Find an appropriate place to park your cart (or yourself) so that you are not directly in the flow of traffic. You want to stand in the middle of the isle and look at people cross-eyed when they bump into you and knock all your stuff over. Move b!$&#... get out the way!

4. Don't push or shove. Come back tomorrow. Ask when the shelves will be restocked. Most of the lack of stuff is just a ploy by the store anyway to make it seem like it's a dire situation, when they know they have 20 boxes back there. Don't let this season make you loose all of your godliness.

5. Open those isles. This is for the workers and stores. You have 50 isles. Open them up! Why is the line wrapped around the building while your workers are in the back playing Pictionary in the toy isle? And if you've been hired to be seasonal help, be of assistance. If you know nothing about your store or your section, how are you helping me? We are trying to handle business here. Spending an hour in line for a product it took only 5 minutes to find is not good customer service.

Learning not to lose your mind during holiday shopping will make the experience as hassle free as any other day. Remember the Golden Rule and just be a good person when you're out there in the trenches.

Haters. We've seen them. We've had them. But do we need them? The short answer is yes. To further explain this we need to know what a Hater is and where the hate comes from.

This is a word that is often used incorrectly. A hater is not someone who is mad cause you stole her man/woman or anything stupid or trivial like that. They just hate you and probably for good reason.

True 'hate', in this context, is derived from a form of jealousy. Jealous over what you have accomplished. Jealous over the things you have managed to obtain. Jealous over who you are dating. Jealous over you in general. Often this hate or jealousy can be displayed in words, faces, and attitude.

Most people would like to do away with all the Haters because, yes they are irritating and can be hurtful. But the only reason you have haters is because you've managed to accomplish or obtain something that the Hater has not. Good for you. Haters are just another way of letting you know that you're doing something right. Because let's be honest, no matter how good you are, how nice you are, how much you give back, you can always fine a hater in the corner.

At times, a Hater will take their hate for you and try to make you hate them. That's a great thing. Feeds the well of competition and has the ability to make you and those around you better. It's always good to make your Haters your motivators. Those are good haters. A bad Hater will hate because they don't have the drive or the self esteem to get up and make something of themselves. Those you can continue to just ignore and let them hate.

Remember, the only people that are liked by everyone are those that are silent. So don't be afraid to get out there and make some noise. Get your haters up.

Ah, technology...Gives people a new way to exercise their bitch-ass-ness.