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Tuesday, June 21, 2011

If Hey Says It He Means It

12:00 PM |

No means no!

Ladies, we all know that at times we hear what we 'want' to hear. We see what we 'want' to see and that's that. We all know that many times when a guy says one thing he really means another.

He says: Yea I'm single.
Translates to: Yea I kick it with a couple of girls, but none of those chics are my girlfriend.

So to just blindly take him at his word would just be naive of you. However, if a man says he's not looking for a relationship right now, he's not feeling you in that way, he doesn't see this relationship going any further than it is, then please believe he's telling you the truth.

If you are truly dealing with a MAN, he was brought up to say what he means and mean what he says. This is the one time where 'I'm not looking for a serious relationship right now' really translates into I'M NOT LOOKING FOR A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW. But women don't want to hear that.

Women hear 'right now'. So to many women that means, there's a possibility in the future you will actually want to be in a serious relationship. That means she can wait you out, wear you down, 'convince' you that she are the one for you. This way when 'not right now' turns into 'right now', there she is. Arms wide open. *GOTCHA*

Ladies, you go out of your way and enter into a girlfriend/wife role prematurely. Trying to show him all of your good qualities. Simulating what a relationship between the two of you could be. This way he'll just have to change his mind and realize that you are who he wants to be with. You and only you.

Stop that. Ladies, I know it's hard. Especially if this man is showing you he possesses all of the qualities you are looking for in a man. You only end up hurting yourself in the end. While he may be Mr. Right to you, to him you just may be good enough for right now. Him kicking it with you now doesn't mean he'll want to be with you in the end. Truthfully, if he was really looking for a serious girl you've already knocked yourself out of the race. The simple fact that you're giving him the girlfriend goodies with out any of the boyfriend responsibilities doesn't really make you look good. It's just ups his player status. He's had to do no work and you give him everything.

So ladies, if you're going to date, date. If it evolves it evolves. But don't get your feelings caught up in a man who is not ready to get his feelings caught up in you.