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Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Chicken or the Egg

12:30 PM |

Exploring the cycle...

Often, I find myself looking at people and their behavior. I started wondering about the cause of some of the overwhelming misunderstandings, triffling behavior and various other problems many people seem to experience when dealing with their partners. I often wonder about the cycle. Are men messed up because women are messed up? Or are women messed up because men are messed up?

This is a hard one. Because for every man that's out there doing wrong, there is a woman in his past that has probably done him wrong (or allowed him to do wrong). And that woman was probably done wrong by a man in her life and it just keeps repeating. The blame could even be placed on the lack of father figures in many of the homes. Or you could blame the mother for either keeping kids from their father or bring random men around their kids. It's all cyclical and finding a start to the problem will probably never happen.

However, after much contemplation, I have decided that the person who is responsible for how a man treats a woman is that woman. A woman decides what she will and will not put up with. A woman decides what she does and does not expect out of her man. A woman ultimately sets the standard for how she wants to be treated. If the woman before you had no standards, you can rest assured that unless you set standards for your man, he won't have them nor will he really know how to respect them. That doesn't mean he can't or won't respect or be able to learn how treat you. You just have to establish the standards and maintain them. So while we many not know how the cycle got started, the responsibility of ending that cycle ultimately lies with a woman.

Don't get me wrong. I fully believe that only a man can teach a boy how to be a man. But only a woman can teach that man how to treat a woman.



3 comments:

Shannon Smith from Chicago said...

love your outlook, I think that its the man who is supposed to be the head of the household that kinda gave up his rightful place and has damaged the who world because of it. I take the blame as a man.

Andrew Piller said...

I have answer on this blog. You must know first comes MAN and WOMAN so All gave all kinds of lives first two.

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