Usually at the end of a year I think a lot. I get extremely introspective and I think mostly about my life, where I'm going, what to do next. This year, I did not have too many thoughts. Mostly because I think, for me, the end of this year was more about decisions than reflections. While the when is still developing, I no longer have to think about the what.

So this New Year, I actually have no resolutions. And I must say, it feels good. For those of you who are making New Year's Resolutions, I'd like to give you a few words:

1. If you didn't do it last year, take it off your list for this year. It's not to say that this won't be the year you'll finally do it. I'm just saying that repeatedly putting an item on the list that you never finish can make you feel unaccomplished at the end of the year. You want to feel better as a result of these resolutions, not defeated.

2. Make your resolutions realistic. Too often resolutions are these pie in the sky type dreams. I'm not saying not to aim high. Just make sure that what you are trying to do is actually attainable.

3. Make the resolutions about you. Not about someone else, or what others can provide for you. The responsibility of resolving these resolutions is yours and yours alone. Depending on someone or something else for your success is a losing move. Be a bit selfish this year and make your resolutions about you and how you can improve yourself or the lives of others.

4. Don't be to hard on yourself. For many of your resolutions, working on the resolution is just as important as finishing it. Resolutions are supposed to make you a better and happier person. So if you look back at the end of the year and feel good about who you are and what you've managed to do, then you've succeeded.

So toast it up tonight and eat your (ham), black-eyed peas and collards tomorrow. I hope everyone had a happy holiday and I wish you nothing but success in 2011!

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