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Saturday, April 10, 2010

Do You Qualify?

2:10 PM |

Figuring out what you want...

The discussion about what people want out of a relationship or in a partner has seems to come up a lot more these past few days. My friends and I discuss it often, but it wasn't until I was directly asked by someone recently that I heard a car came to a screeching halt in my mind. "What do [I] look for in a man?" I was asked. My response? Ummm...... (the pause allowed them to speculate and fill in the blanks leaving me with an easy out).

What do you look for in a partner? As many times as we're asked, how many have truly honest, feasible and serious answers? Many answers I hear from people are ridiculous, often made jokingly and not realistic at all. We brush the question off and continue about our conversation. But if we don't have any honest, realistic qualifications about what we want, how will we know when we've met someone that meets our requirements?

Everyone has requirements, or things they need from someone else. If you didn't, it wouldn't matter who you dated, what you guys did on a daily basis, where you went out, etc. You'd never get in arguments because they'd never upset or disappoint you, and you'd never break up with someone. Quite often, we're unaware of what we need or want until we get someone who's not giving it to us.

In high school I had a list of 46 things I wanted out of a guy. As I grew up and looked back on that list some of the requirements were just crazy. But as you grow, the requirements change and evolve. At some point we all have to sit down and figure out what we want. If we don't, how will we know we've met that "one"?


Professor Locs said...

So I am curious what is on your list

Miss_A said...

Working on it. I'll be sure to post it when it's done ;)

Nakia Stewart said...

Well I knew what I wanted in a man and that's exacty what I got. I prayed and told God what characteristics I needed in a guy and He sent the love of my life to me. We have been together for almost four years and we are getting married this summer. We have a son together and he accepts my other son just as his own. Can't get much better than that!!