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Monday, April 19, 2010

The End

11:54 AM |

This wasn't how it was supposed to be...

The story goes: Boy meets girl. Boy dates girl. They laugh, they share, they love and things are great. Then...things take a turn. One is not happy. The other feels neglected. It appears that the relationship has run it's course. It's been a few years now and boy and girl have occupied a great space in each other's lives. How does it end?

As much as I hate to say it, sometimes, it's just over. It'd be nice if when relationships ended, there were no loose ends, nothing to tidy up, a nice clean break. But the reality is, many times, it's just over. And the over can be U-G-L-Y.

There are so many ways to break things off with a person, but I feel the most cowardly way to do so is the Disappearing Act: POOF, they're gone. After you've spent some time with anyone at all, how do you not have even the slightest respect to send them off with a least a "F-U, I'm out"? Let's be honest. That's a bitch move. In an effort to spare feelings, you leave the other more torn up, and more confused than if you were to just end it.

If you're on the receiving end of a POOF it's up to you to determine how you'll find closure. It may be a final text, a closing voicemail, a letter, or maybe nothing. However you do it, get it over with and consider it done. I feel that anyone who doesn't have the decency to end things with you, doesn't deserve the time you'd spend wondering and waiting and pinning over what was.


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Anonymous said...

I must admit I have been caught up in the bitch-ass-ness twice. The first time, I feel justified since he left the relationship and didn't bother to tell me (although he was still there physically- partially). This is after many attempts to get at the problem and trying to bridge the gaps. Sometimes you do need to just walk away, even if it is selfish. Sometimes it beez like dat!
The other, I packed my crap and left. I did return after the fact (the same day) and said what I had said several times before: 'I was tired of not being happy'.
My thing is, if you leave, it's for a reason so if you return, there needs to be a clear plan of action to address the issues. or guess what, you'll need to leave again.
If you feel the need to end things, 'Be sure you're sure (Stevie Wonder)'!