An honest dialogue about love, life, and everything in-between...

No seriously chill with this Meeks stuff...


jeremy meeks mug shot
So I'm sure everyone on the planet now has been witness to the mugshot heard 'round the world of 'notorious' pretty boy thug Jeremy Meeks. Along with all the comments from all kinds of women remarking about his modelesque looks and how shameful it is that he's a criminal (along with some probably NC-17 comments about what they'd like to do to him). And I'm also sure you've seen the accompanying posts about how sad and disappointed people are (gotta love the ones directed at black women...I got a whole lot of f-word filled sentences for that...but anyway) that they are saying all these things and going ga-ga over such a bad person. Such deep commentary on the state of the woman's psyche and how she could allow herself to think these things of a guy such as him.

BWAHHHHHHHHAAAAHHHHAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Are you serious? Are you really serious right now? Like I'm sure all of the syphilis filled silicone stacked dumb-diddy-diddy-dumb bubble headed barbies you guys drool over on a daily basis are model citizens. Like you're lusting over a lovely personality and good community service work. Man, get the FOH. Let's just be clear, lust and objectification have absolutely nothing to do at all with the personality. Guys prove that on a daily basis. And that's all that this is. Light-eyed objectification.

BUT AH-HA! The table has turned. It's uncomfortable to think that women can be just as filthy minded as men. Because we're supposed to be attracted to deeper things like honesty and good citizenship. Honestly, most of the comments I've seen have been followed up by or preceded with "damn shame". So these women know he's no good. Doesn't change the fact that most think he's fine. Why should it?

At the end of the day who the fuck cares? Why does it bother people so much that women find this man attractive? Like pretty only comes in good packages. Psh! We all know that about 95-98% or so (give or take) would have no (serious) dealings with this married thug in real life. (But the again I run with smart women....) So why all the vibe killing?? Make you uncomfortable? Thinking of all the objectionable things women may say about you behind your back (or not)? Don't like that? Hmmmmmm?

When the 2-5% of these dumb hoes raise money to get this man out of jail then you complain. If a modeling agency really does think they could profit from this outpouring of interest, by all means talk away, cause I'll be talking right with you. BUT until then, big hand claps to the ladies. Way to let those freak flags fly. Have fun. Objectify and fantasize away.

But I gotta say thank you Facebook for actually setting off a spark to help me write something again. Even if it's dumb as shit.


.....sigh.....I gotta stop cussing......



Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Having A Plan B

7:30 AM |

You can still succeed...


This is a bit of a side bar for a second, but I feel the need to somehow come to the aid of the concept of having a Plan B in life.  People seem to attack this idea as if it means you'll fail at Plan A.  And that taking your eyes off Plan A will most certainly ensure that you will never succeed at Plan A.

People, Plan A is just a route - it's not the goal.  Think about it this way:  You're going home for the holidays.  Home is your goal for the trip.  Plan A may include driving.  But maybe there's traffic on the main highways that are causing major delays.  What do you do? Give up?  Say you failed?  Stay on this main street and take what could be additional HOURS on your travel time? Or do you look in your navigation system and find an alternate route?  It could be a bit more inconvienet, it could have a few more turns and stops, but ultimately, you'll make it.  This is the concept you should have when considering your Plan B. The goal didn't change, but the way you got there did.

And this concept does work with everything.  For some people the ultimate goal with dating is to eventually find someone you can spend the rest of your life with.  Plan A may be to meet someone in school.  Plan B may be to meet someone at work.  Plan C may be to have your friends introduce you to someone.  Plan D may be to have your family introduce you.  Plan E may be online dating.  I could go on for days, but the point is, if you want to be married, there are several tracks you can take in dating and how to date, to get you there. Same thing with your career goals.  Want to be a CEO, self employed, whatever it is.  There are several ways to get there.

I write this to mostly because people get so focused on the route and forget that ultimately they're trying to reach a goal.  The plan is just that - a plan. It can change, it can grow and it can even fail.  This is life.  Very few things go the way we plan.  But that doesn't mean you can't reach your goal. You just have to be flexible enough to take the opportunities that are presented to you that will help you get there.  Not just focus on your initial idea or plan. Because if you reach your goal, why does it matter how you've gotten there?  Wether it was your first plan or your 30th.  You made it right?



Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Random Thought

12:00 PM |

Heard this one too many times...




Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Random Thought

3:42 PM |

By special request for Random Thought Wednesday.....





Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Random Thought

1:22 PM |

Sometimes I wake up with music in my head.  Why this was what came to my mind today I'll never know.  But I opened the cabinet to grab my cereal for breakfast and when I closed the door I exclaimed....


WHAT'CHU WANT NINE!!!!!!!!



Wednesday, August 1, 2012

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Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Random Thought

Advice for all those considering 'commitment'...


This week's random thought comes courtesy of a conversation one of my sisters had with a close friend. Trust me, she is quite qualified to give this advice.

She says:

Before you decide to commit to anything take the thing that bothers you the most, imagine it's 10 times worse, and never changes. Then ask yourself if in 20 years you could see yourself still being OK with it. If you say yes, write down your reason why and engrave both on something you keep. ...just because the reason is true now doesn't mean it will always be, but unless you remember the reason you had at the time, you won't know how you've changed either.

Something to think about.



Wednesday, January 11, 2012

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