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Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Mirror, Mirror

12:32 AM |

Not the fairest, but at least fly...

As the years tick by, there are certain compromises that come along when looking for that mate. The mental list of requirements you may have start to be revised, prioritized, cut down. Often I get told that the guy for you may not come in the package you want. I get that. I'm not so shallow that I can't be open to the possibilities of being with someone that may not be my "type". And don't get me wrong, I'm not impressed solely by a pretty face. You have to have some business about yourself and we have to click on more than just the physical level. But lately it seems as if the ones that match my qualifications on the personality, education, insides, are no where close to what I like on the outside.

Let's just be honest. I want to be able to roll over in the morning, look at my man and say to myself that is one sexy man. I would hope that the man I was with would roll over in the morning and say the same thing when looking at me. Does the world has to say it. Nope (it's a bonus but no). But I have to feel some sort of attraction to you in order for our relationship to be more than just friends. I mean...wouldn't that be what separates being a couple from being just friends? So while the qualifications don't have to come in my ideal package, it has to be somewhere in those realms.

Don't roll your eyes and call me shallow. Be honest. The majority of relationships that were built from personality up were those that didn't start out as romantic relationships in the first place. You don't approach a guy or girl at a bar because you can see her personality from across the room. (No, you don't you lying bastard). Looks are what gets you over there, personality is what makes you stay.

I guess this is just a rant based out of my own frustrations but it has helped me realized that one of the priorities on my list is still being sexually attracted to my mate. Will I ever find it? Magic Eight Ball says, "Ask again later". I don't have to find my "dream" guy in terms of looks, but I do need something pretty close. Like my homegirl used to say "If I don't want you, I don't want you".