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Sunday, January 24, 2010

Clean House

9:34 PM |

Cleaning house...

So the saying goes: some people are in your life for a reason, season or lifetime. If you are unfamiliar, let me paraphrase. The people in your life for a reason are there to aid you, support you, guide you through something. They are there to fulfill some type of need in your life. Once that need is met or you have over come your difficulty, the relationship will come to an end in some way. The people in your life for a season are there because it's your time to share, grow, or teach. They are there to introduce you to new things, make you laugh, and then they are too gone. Faster than those that are there for a reason sometimes. The relationships that are there for a lifetime are those building on solid emotional foundations. They teach you lessons that you apply to other relationships or aspects of your life. Those relationships linger and grow over time.

It is important to understand what role people play in your life. Some of us have relationships that should have ended a long time ago still hanging on. Either that person is hanging on or we don't just let go. I think it's important that when relationships go sour, we take time to figure out what role they were playing in our life to begin with, learn the lesson we were supposed to learn and let it go. Why make yourself miserable holding on to something you were never meant to have last? Sometimes you hold on to something old so long, you block something new and better from coming along.

At some point it's time to clean house. Get rid of people who need to go. Keep people who need to stay. How many people are hanging on in your life that need to go.....