Telling your girl about her man...


So you have some information about your friend's man.  Maybe he's got another girl on the side.  Maybe he's talking bad about her in public.  Maybe you had a one time fling with him long before they got together.  Maybe you had a fling with him while they were together not knowing they were a  couple. Wether it's an opinion or information, you have something that you know about her man that she does not. What do you do?  Do you tell? Or do you keep your mouth shut?

It is entirely possible for you to decide not to get involved.  If things seem to be going good for her and her man, then why rock the boat. She seems happy. Saying anything could make you just seem like a hater. It could be taken in completely the wrong context and she could totally get mad at you for something that's not entirely your fault or your problem.  So while it may be important for you to be a good friend and be totally honest, saying anything to her might do more harm than good.

On the other hand, if information comes out later and it is discovered that you knew the entire time, you could still be in hot water.  If you do have some secret about her man, he could use that against you- blackmail. He could make your role in anything seem more deceptive and dirty than it actually was. She'll feel like you were lying to her.  She could think you were allowing her to be played for a fool.  Friends are supposed to look out for one another right? How could you do that to her?

In my opinion, the latter is worse than the former.  I would much rather be as up front and as honest with my friends as I need to be.  I refuse to have anything out there that could potentially be used against me.  And I most certainly do not want to be perceived as a liar by my good friends. If you were indeed my friends, then you would know that I would never say or do anything to intentionally hurt.  I would always have your best interest at heart and nothing I would say would be me being a hater.  And if I was being a hater, I'd tell you.  I've done it before.  I would hope my friend would know me better and that if I ever had information that I really needed to share with my friend that they would take it as it were intended.

So in the end, I say: Say something.  It's better to deal with the repercussions now than let something that didn't need to build up explode on you and your friendship later.

O.....FOR REAL?
I'm not a big gossip person but sometimes.....


The word is 50 has just laid down tracks for his I Get Money remix. Listeners can expect to hear guest verses from Jay-Z and Kanye. Some also say Diddy becuase Kanye may not be released to be on it. Last I heard it was 50, Jigga and the Louis Vuitton Don. Whoever is on it, let's just hope the lyrics dropped will be as 'money' as they claim to be.





The word is Raven Symone (from the Disney Channel's That's So Raven and Olivia from the Cosby Show for us Cosby Kids) is supposed to be having or had a baby. To add more spice, the gossipers are whispering that the baby's father is supposed to be either Omarion or Lil Fiz formly of B2K. Well after checking a bunch of sites, the overall result is this rumor is false. So all can let that lie go. Don't let the high school shows fool you, Ms. Raven is no longer little Olivia. She is 22 years old. So if she was to have a child, she's a very paid, quite grown ass woman. Also, back up off her and her weight bloggers! The world is not a size 2! Girls already have image issues, what's wrong with a role model that breaks the mold? I'm not a fan of the girl by any means, but she is a positive female role model to many young impressionable girls who don't know how to separate gossip from real news. Raven has managed to keep her personal life out of the media and all should respect that.


The word in the beauty shop is that Chris Brown and Gabrielle Union are dating. After doing a little digging, it appears that this rumor surfaced after a comment made in an issue of Giant magazine. Chris states in there something about her making him an indecent proposal. Is it true? Last I knew, Ms. Union was dating her old high school sweet heart, Jason Kidd. Who knows. Newly legal Brown is all over the place and is very much a self-proclaimed "girl crazy" kid. Honestly honey, you may be rather cute, but you're still a child. Please Believe!




The final word is a congratulations shout to my beautiful Common. He has become the first hip-hop artist to have his Finding Forever CD carried at Starbucks. Good way to reach a whole new section of The People.