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Tuesday, September 27, 2011

What's the Sitch?

6:25 PM |

Making problems out of posies....

I often come across blog posts, questions, threads or conversations involving people asking others what's going on with their mate. And I've discovered that there are two kinds of people out there asking these questions. People that are really just reading entirely too far into people's actions and words. Trying to figure out if there is some covert operation going on behind the scenes. Transforming "I want chicken" into "You're terrible in bed". And people that are completely oblivious and in denial about what is really going on.

I don't get people sometimes. One minute you're talking about your man hasn't been coming home, other girls keep calling the house, you only see him after midnight, he won't take you to meet his mom, he says he doesn't love you and you have the nerve to ask if he's cheating on you and should you stay with him. The next you're ready to break things off because he sent you THX in a text message instead of 143 and that means he must be up to something.


I am not one to say ignore your instincts because typically they are right. But some of you are just so off out there. Not every man is out there doing dirt behind your back. Not every girl that smiles at you in the office is trying to get in your pants. At the same time if he's dogging you out, HE'S DOGGING YOU OUT! If you think she's sleeping with your best friend, she is. No need to say 'probably is'. Ain't no probably.....IT IS! I mean...have you listened to your story? Read your post? Do you hear yourself?

All in all I think people need to just stop and think sometimes. Check themselves. Not every conversation or actions in a relationship have to blow up into a huge situation. And if the person you are with has you living in a constant state of paranoia you need to let that go. At the same time, you can't be so desperate and afraid of being with out someone that it makes you hold on to something that is sooo toxic for you. It's not good for you mentally or physically.