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Friday, July 6, 2007


12:24 AM |

Some of you people live as if your existence is imposed on you. As if what you do from day to day is not a result of your own decisions. Some of you go through life letting your situations dictate your happiness and well being. However what needs to be understood is that a majority of the situations, events, hindrances that have happened in your lives are the product of your own actions. And since you have created this environment for yourselves, you have to generate actions to get out of it. It is up to you as an individual to wake up in the morning and decide how you want to live your life today. What do you want to do? What do you have to do? What can you chose to do later? What cannot be done later? Will you be happy today? Will you let someone ruin your day? Who do you want to be today? Stand-up, man-up and take charge of your life. Nothing will happen unless you will it to, and put the time and effort to make things work. If you don't like something about yourself, change it. If you hate where you work, do the things you need to do to get another job, or a promotion. If you don't like your weight, change your eating habits, and work out. If you don't like your hair, get a weave, or cut it off. If you hate where you live, save up and move. If you hate your car, start working on building or rebuilding a better credit history and get something else. And if you choose not to improve the things in your life that make you miserable, the shut the hell up about it. What is the point of complaining? You're not doing anything to make your situations any better. A majority of the time you already know what type of advice you are going to get from the people you are choosing to share with. And since you already know what people are going to tell you, you have already made the choice not to listen to that advice. What good comes out of dragging people into your own self imposed misery? Now I do understand that some things in life are beyond your control. However you have to find a way to deal with the things that you cannot change. Why cause yourself worry and stress over things that you, personally cannot change? Instead, why not try and come up with a solution to make dealing with those things a little easier. Life in general is not easy. If it were then we all would be millionaires, living lavish lives. However life is not an endless stream of impossible and hopelessly hard situations. Life is only as hard as you make it. It is your choice how you will live. Live it day to day. Plan for the things you can plan for. Change your situations. And for all of the things you have no control over, just say fuck it.